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What’s One Thing You’re Too Old to Pretend to Like Anymore?

What’s One Thing You’re Too Old to Pretend to Like Anymore?

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Margaret “Mags” Whitcombe

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The older I get, the quieter my life sounds and the clearer my voice becomes. I have come to learn that there’s this gentle kind of courage that arrives in midlife, the kind that lets you set down the heavy things: the constant pleasing, the smiling through discomfort, the outfits that pinch and the schedules that never leave space to breathe. 

I’m writing this piece to name the things I’m too old to pretend to like anymore and to nod at the quiet list many women over 50 keep in their hearts. If it helps you find words for your own boundaries, wonderful. If it simply makes you feel seen, even better.

Midlife Honesty

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There’s relief in dropping the polite “yes” that steals our peace. Being honest after 50 doesn’t mean becoming sharp or severe—it means becoming clear. 

I can adore a friend and still say no to a plan that keeps me up past midnight. I can appreciate a trend and still choose clothes that let me move through my day without wincing. 

That clarity is one of the things I’m too old to pretend is optional. It’s essential.

Clarity doesn’t harm relationships; it strengthens them. People understand where you stand when they know the real you, the one who values comfort, sincerity, and quality time. 

No more pretending to be the woman who adores everything and everyone alike. It was never honest and it became exhausting.

Work Without Worshiping Burnout

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Ambition still matters to me. It always will. What changed is the soundtrack. I refuse to applaud chaos for the sake of optics. 

Endless hustle, meetings with no meaning, “urgent” to-dos that devour weekends—these are things I’m too old to pretend are the price of being valuable. They’re not.

Setting boundaries at work sounds like saying, “Here’s where I do my best work—and here’s where I stop.” That is not laziness; it is leadership. The end result is higher productivity, more stable teams, and a calendar that resembles a life. 

Being authentic in midlife means realizing that the best performers take care of their energy just as much as they do their work.

Style That Loves Me Back

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I still enjoy a swipe of lipstick and a dress that straightens my posture. What I’ve retired from is suffering in the name of fashion.

It’s no longer okay for me to pretend that comfort is less important than style when it comes to shoes that bite, waistbands that pinch, and fabrics that suffocate. It never did. Beauty comes to us when we are happy and at ease.

Going after labels also left the chat. In my closet right now, classic is better than trendy. Simply look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself, “Does this feel like me?” If not, it heads out the door. 

Keeping clothes because of their price tag instead of their joy is something I’m too old to pretend is worth closet space.

Social Life Without the Emotional Hangover

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I love people, 100%, but what I don’t like is living in drama. I can’t stand text threads that feel like a treadmill, conversations that never go deeper, or friendships that make us shrink. What I can’t stand is the version of myself that tries too hard to be liked.

Being caring means putting depth over performance. That means we can be fully present where it matters.

Distance doesn’t mean disdain. It means being responsible. I can care about everyone and still choose who to include in my circle. I am too old to pretend that curating my circle is rude. It shows respect for myself and the people I choose to keep close.

Health, Wellness, and Saying Yes to What Actually Helps

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The wellness I practice now is steady, not splashy. I walk in the morning because it calms my mind. I choose meals that love me back because my body thanks me later. I sleep like it’s medicine. Being unapologetic after 50 is like ignoring trends that promise fun but end in tiredness.

The loud inner critic got retired, too. What I no longer tolerate is speaking to myself in ways I wouldn’t speak to anyone else. 

Progress includes tenderness. If I train hard, I also rest well. If I set a goal, I celebrate small steps. This balance sits high on my list of things I’m too old to pretend isn’t real success.

Home That Fits the Life I Actually Live

The house used to hold every era of me at once. Now it holds the current one. Closets are lighter. Shelves breathe. Nostalgia occupies a curated box, not a room. 

Freedom as you age means letting go without feeling guilty. You can thank the things that served you for a time and make room for new rituals.

Quiet evenings are not boring; they’re restorative. The dog at my feet, a kettle, and a good book—this is luxury that looks like something normal. Calling that “enough” is one of the things I’m too old to pretend I need to justify.

Money, Time, and the Value of Enough

Before now, the primary focus used to be on quantity. Now, “enough” is the goal line. I invest in what lasts: sturdy shoes, a beautiful moisturizer, and friendships that call back. 

I walk past the sale rack when the bargain requires compromising who I am. That is real talk over 50, and it respects both budget and soul.

Time gets the same treatment. Not every hour belongs to urgency. I leave a margin for thinking, wandering, and doing nothing in particular. 

If a week stacks too high, I subtract. Overbooked calendars are things I’m too old to pretend are a badge of honor.

Comparison—The Habit I’m Relieved to Outgrow

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I can’t stand scrolling, side-eyeing, and comparing my normal life to someone else’s highlight reel. What I can’t stand is the smallness that comes after. 

Every good life loses some of its richness when you compare it to others. After age 50, being honest means that I have to pay attention to when I start to shrink and choose to step back into my own story. That’s what makes mine beautiful: it’s rough, imperfect, and full of life.

IIt helps to keep in mind that each picture is only a frame and not the whole movie.There are some things that don’t trend: the cup of tea in the morning, the laugh in the kitchen, and the phone call that feels like a hug. They root us.

Naming the List (And Updating It Whenever Needed)

Some days, the “one thing” is a shoe. Other days it’s a storyline. Often it’s a habit I outgrew but kept out of habit. The list of things I’m too old to pretend I enjoy is living and flexible. I add to it when a boundary reveals itself. I edit it when life shifts.

The point isn’t to harden; it’s to soften into truth. It’s easier for myself and others to live with me when I respect my time, money, and body. Authenticity in midlife is simply aligning what I value with how I live, consistently and quietly.

Final Thoughts

Being unapologetic after 50 is the most surprising gift of this time. Unapologetic after 50 doesn’t mean louder; it means truer. 

We don’t compete with younger versions of ourselves. We appreciate their help in getting us here and will keep doing what works. The rest we lay down, quietly and completely.

So, what’s the one thing we’re too old to pretend to like anymore—today? Maybe it’s an event, a shoe, a storyline, a habit. Maybe it’s the apology we kept attaching to our preferences. 

The exact answer will change, but the practice remains: choose truth, protect peace, and let your choices match your life.

 Over and over, we’ll say it with a smile: this is one of the “things I’m too old to pretend”—and that’s our permission slip to live well.

Join the Conversation

Your turn: what’s one thing you’re too old to pretend to like anymore? Share your things I’m too old to pretend list in the comments—pick one, tell us why it made the cut, and how life shifted when you stopped pretending. If you’re comfortable, add your age; your story might be the nudge another woman needs today. 

A simple starter: “I’m too old to pretend I like _____, and now I choose _____.”

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10 min Standing Abs (muffin top focus): Core activation to flatten and firm without floor work.

30 min Walking Workout: Steady, low-impact cardio to support heart health and fat loss (great Zone 2 pace).

10 min Balance Training: Stability, coordination, and ankle/hip strength for fall prevention.

Why this works for women 50+
Low-impact cardio supports heart health and sustained fat burn.

Standing core work strengthens deep abdominals to support posture and reduce back strain.

Balance drills train the nervous system for faster reaction time and confidence in daily movement.

Joint-friendly pacing, beginner-ready, and perfect during menopause and beyond.

How to use
Do this workout 3–4 times per week. Walk on non-training days and add gentle mobility or stretching. Hydrate, move at your pace, and progress by increasing range of motion or pace.

Tell me in the comments which section felt best today and if you’re trying this two times per week for faster results.

0:00 - Intro to 50-Minute Weight Loss Workout for Women Over 50 (No Equipment)
0:26 - Standing Ab Workout to Lose Belly Fat & Muffin Top After 50
11:13 - Low Impact Walking Workout for Weight Loss & Heart Health Over 50
13:06 - Menopause-Friendly Upper Body Workout for Posture & Bone Health
18:01 - Fat Burning Cardio Workout for Women Over 50 (Joint-Friendly)
24:05 - Easy Squat Workout for Leg Strength & Bone Health After 50
27:15 - Brain Training Cardio for Memory & Coordination Over 50
32:55 - Cool Down Walking for Heart Rate Recovery After 50
34:04 - Balance Workout for Fall Prevention & Confidence Over 50
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